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|Posted On 11-03-2013 5:49 AM|
|Your Name||: Miles Blanton|
|Email Address||: email@example.com|
|Location||: Bowling Green, OH|
|How did you find our site?||: Saw keynote at NWO Symposium 2013|
|Comment||: I saw your keynote address at the 2013 NWO Symposium at BGSU and had some etymological thoughts on your critique that educators are facilitators. If the word facilitator comes from the Latin for "easy", and yet good instruction does not highlight the easiness of a topic (in your example of the May Flower exercise the teacher kept complicating the problem, to good effect). Thus, I propose that good educators are not facilitators, but rather we should use a new word, difficilators, from the Latin for "hard". Thus a good educator difficilates an instructional environment. And this is a good thing. |
|Posted On 11-02-2013 9:27 AM|
|Your Name||: Alison Kinross|
|Email Address||: firstname.lastname@example.org|
|Location||: Hamilton, Ontario, Canada|
|How did you find our site?||: I heard you on CBC Radio 1 this morning|
|Comment||: Alfie Kohn, I can't thank you enough for your thoughts on CBC Radio this morning. I have recently graduated from university, and am slowly coming to terms with how useless my education has been, particularly from the beginning of high school until the end of my university education. This is because although I have usually managed to get the top mark, I have gradually learned to do this in the quickest way possible, which is a way that involves very little learning. So, I am emerging from university with an excellent transcript and resume (since most research positions are granted based on grades), and very little understanding to show for it. It's a real shame. Several times in high school and in university I recognized that I was getting by without learning very much, and I tried to change my behaviour. But this is very difficult when the whole system is set up to reward people for their grades - deciding to ignore my grades and focus on learning seemed as though it wouldn't lead to the opportunities that I wanted to have.|
|Posted On 10-10-2013 10:24 AM|
|Your Name||: Carol Kirkstadt|
|Email Address||: CarolK3140 at comcast.net|
|Location||: Loveland, CO|
|Comment||: First, thanks for your book "The Schools our Children Deserve" ... I am trying to understand the issues surrounding Common Core and High-stakes testing and found your book very helpful.|
I recently created two videos to try to get people interested in opposing this "reform" activity the first video is a overview with some specific charts for Colorado
The second is a poem "To the American School System"
I am hoping people will take the time to watch the videos and pass them on. We need to stop this "reform" effort. Thanks, Carol K.
|Posted On 10-06-2013 9:56 PM|
|Your Name||: Amy Walker|
|Email Address||: ficwriter79 AT yahoo.com|
|How did you find our site?||: Frequent reader/guestbook signer|
|Comment||: I find all of your articles to be especially hard-hitting, if depressing and anger-inducing for someone like me: unemployed and hopeless at the STEM subjects you write about in "STEM Sell". Nowadays, they seem to be the only skills and subject areas of any importance to employers. Thank you for bringing me hope and truth: that if you're stymied by science, terrified by technological concepts, eviscerated by engineering, and miserable at math, you are not worthless as a student or a human being. Bravo!|
|Posted On 10-04-2013 10:58 AM|
|Your Name||: Stephanie Smith|
|Email Address||: email@example.com|
|Organization||: DSI Inc|
|Location||: United States|
|How did you find our site?||: friend|
|Comment||: this page is exactly what I was searching for! found your article bookmarked by a friend of mine. I will also bookmark it. thanks!|
|Posted On 09-23-2013 10:40 AM|
|Your Name||: Randal Jones|
|Email Address||: firstname.lastname@example.org|
|Organization||: Houston Independent School District|
|Location||: Houston, TX|
|How did you find our site?||: Saw it in Education Week|
|Comment||: I read your piece in the Sept. 18 edition of Education Week. It was very timely because of the article that appeared in the Sept. 23rd edition of the Houston Chronicle entitled "2 Area Districts Reject Extra Testing". : http://www.houstonchronicle.com/news/education/article/2-local-school-districts-balk-at-double-testing-4834910.php?t=fc488f0c4f9dbbe3f7
Although our legislature recently had the good sense to cut back on the number of tests that high school students must pass to graduate in Texas, there are still too many being mandated by policy makers. More school based staff members are starting to heed your advice and being courageous enough just say no. Enough already.
|Posted On 09-22-2013 9:33 PM|
|Your Name||: Cynthia Nedich|
|Email Address||: 2329 Ethan Way|
|Organization||: Sacramento City Teacher|
|Location||: Sacramento Ca|
|How did you find our site?||: I googled Alfie Kohn in a desperate attempt to get satiated in the topics he writes and speaks about. |
|Comment||: Yes! He is right. Now what do I do? Knowing he is correct on many if not all these issues, where will I teach?|
|Posted On 09-20-2013 7:15 PM|
|Your Name||: Nobo Komagata|
|Email Address||: 2013[AT]nobo.komagata.net|
|Location||: Ewing, NJ|
|How did you find our site?||: Web search some time ago|
|Comment||: Positive Behavior Support (PBS) is coming to my child's public elementary school. As a concerned parent of the use of rewards in school and a fan of "Punished by Rewards," I wrote an essay to send to the principal and a district administrator. If Mr. Kohn and/or anyone is interested in reading it and providing me comments/suggestions, I would really appreciate it. The essay is available in the following two formats:|
In addition, if anyone has an idea where I might want to submit it for additional circulation, I would appreciate it as well.
|Posted On 09-16-2013 10:09 AM|
|Your Name||: Inspire|
|Comment||: I am so glad to see that I am not the only one that shares the same ideas as you! Honestly, I have tried telling students and teachers about how grades do not lead to better learning, and ultimately defeat the actual process of learning. But it seems like people are reluctant to understand this idea, or even listen to it. Some people are so much inside their box, that no matter how hard we try to change them, we cannot succeed (and believe me I have tried, just like you have :) ) if they themselves are not willing to change. I want to make people more aware of the fact that grades should be abolished. I still cannot believe that we are in the 21st century, and we are still facing this issue with grades. With a kind of mindset like that, we will go nowhere. I wish more people knew about your work and your ideas, Alfie Kohn.|
|Posted On 09-08-2013 8:09 PM|
|Your Name||: karin wentworth-ping|
|Email Address||: email@example.com|
|Organization||: wentworth people|
|Location||: sydney, australia|
|How did you find our site?||: intuition and skill|
Because you are there , I feel sane! For 5 years at my children's' school I have put the case against homework and have been utterly amazed at the parents' acceptance and support of this archaic and unnecessary system. Even the teachers that I've continually talked with accept that there is little or no value in the homework they set. Why are they still setting homework? Because SOME parents want it and SOME demand more as proof that the teachers are doing their job and their children are achieving, er, something! Eventually, this year, (and to my delight) the years K to 3 were told there was no longer any homework to do (yea) HOWEVER the teachers will still set homework for those who want to do it (huh?).....read, for those parents who want their children to do it. Here's a paradox way too complex for these little ones to comprehend, so instead they interpret this as : the teacher says there is homework, others are doing their homework, I should do the homework because when my friend gives his in the teacher smiles at him and says well done. Not good enough. However, a breakthrough came later with the school announcing that there will be a complete review of the homework policy, and there has been. There is a meeting tonight to present the outcome.......I am in combative mood and armed with much of your data and information. Wish me luck....
|Posted On 08-25-2013 5:37 PM|
|Your Name||: Nicole|
|Email Address||: firstname.lastname@example.org|
|Location||: New Mexico|
|How did you find our site?||: College Professsor|
|Comment||: I've been reading Beyond Discipline and the more I read the more I realize just how much I agree with Kohn. I was introduced to him by a college professor in New York. I'm going to try to implement some of the techniques that I think will create more of a community in my classroom. Last week, I realized how tired I was of "disciplining and coercing" my students into good behavior. I want them to make their own good choices regarding behavior. Kohn is onto something here.|
|Posted On 08-14-2013 7:50 PM|
|Your Name||: Elizabeth A|
|Email Address||: email@example.com|
|Location||: Crestline, CA|
|How did you find our site?||: Google|
|Comment||: I heard Alfie Kohn on Air Talk with Larry Mantle on KPCC today, and his comments that it is always a bad idea to manipulate our children's behaviour were baffling to me. How can a parent fulfill the responisbility to keep a very young child safe without resorting to the "verbal doggie biscuit" of praise, or some other method of manipulative conditioning? I would have liked to have heard what he would do about a 2 year old who wants to run toward moving vehicles in a parking lot, for example. I'd rather "manipulate" my daughter by praising her for holding my hand or tolerating me carrying her than "respect her choice" and have her end up dead or injured. I strongly recommend he address this issue of safety in future interviews, because I was just confused by his position. It seemed like he must never have lived with a toddler when I heard him say that it was always a bad idea to manipulate our children's behavior.|
|Posted On 08-04-2013 8:02 AM|
|Your Name||: Narahari|
|Email Address||: narahariprem(at)gmail.com|
|How did you find our site?||: Your book|
When I was a young boy i didn't want to join other boys fighting over a ball on the field. In the school i didn't like sports classes because many of them involved these kinds of competitive games. Being a man, i was programmed to think that there's is something wrong with me because i don't enjoy competition. Only now having read “No contest” can I really appreciate myself for being more human than all these structures were asking me to be. Never before i have found anybody being able to so clearly analyse subjects that for most people seem unquestionable. Also I have seen your DVD:s “Unconditional Parenting” and “No grades + no homework = better learning” and i found them very interesting, i wish every parent and teacher would take time to see them. Now i'm going to get “punished by rewards” and i'm quite excited to discover yet more insights that resonate with my inner feelings. Thank you so much for sharing your discoveries with us :)
|Posted On 07-26-2013 12:56 AM|
|Your Name||: Svetlana|
|Email Address||: firstname.lastname@example.org|
|Organization||: Novgorod State University|
|Location||: Veliky Novgorod, Russia|
|How did you find our site?||: very good|
|Comment||: My name is Svetlana Kalinina, I'm from Russia's oldest city of Veliky Novgorod. I am a teacher of psychology at the University and a practicing child psychologist. I want to thank you for your book! It expressed all that I am trying to convey intuitively to parents, in addition, it has helped me raise my two daughters. Unfortunately, it still is in Russian only in the electronic version, but many parents it is read, and the approach of unconditional parenting is gradually taking root in Russia, although it is very, very hard. Thank you again!|
|Posted On 07-24-2013 12:11 PM|
|Your Name||: Joann O'Toole|
|Email Address||: otoolejoann AT gmail.com|
|Location||: United States|
|How did you find our site?||: google|
|Comment||: I thought you would love to read this article about high school students who actually developed a class, within their public school, with the exact philosophy you talk about in your books. I found it very astonishing that students figured this out for themselves and actually did something about it. A must read for sure.... http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/answer-sheet/wp/2013/02/20/if-students-designed-their-own-school-it-would-look-like-this/|
|Posted On 07-07-2013 2:38 PM|
|Your Name||: Merrily Davidson|
|How did you find our site?||: One of your quotes was posted on Facebook|
|Comment||: Fantastic to find someone that thinks this way. Have been thinking this way for a while myself. Although I coped fairly well as a student, however not great. I now have 2 sons with Dyslexia, it's made me see the many flaws in the Education System. If only we good get your message out there On Australia|
|Posted On 07-06-2013 2:37 AM|
|Your Name||: Ula|
|Comment||: Thank you, thank you, thank you for your book "Unconditional parenting"! I'm a mother who was struggling to find some alternatives to rewards system that today's society is full of. It always sounded fake and artificial to me, not to mention controlling part, but literally all of the people I know are using them (or punishments) and think that's the best for their kids. After reading your book I finally have some arguments to try to convince them and for myself to relax and try some non-controlling methods. Thank you!|
|Posted On 06-19-2013 5:24 PM|
|Your Name||: steve hein|
|Email Address||: stevehein at hotmail.com|
|Comment||: Yesterday I found Daniel Willingham's attack of Alfie Kohn. Later I read Alfie's reply.
Tonight when I woke up during the night, as I often do when something is troubling me, I laid in bed and thought for a long time. Then I got up and did these two searches in Google.
"I love Alfie Kohn" and "I love Daniel Willingham"
The results say a lot. Please try it yourself and post the results here. I want Alfie to know he is loved by many people, and also to *feel* loved, cared about... and protected, for I feel protective of Alfie Kohn - words not yet found on Google, by the way. That, in fact, was my main feeling as I initially read the Willingham blog - protective of Alfie.
It hurts me to see him attacked, and I will say misrepresented, as he was by David Willingham.
I want to also add my own entries to the Google database or to the "cloud."
I love Alfie Kohn's passion. I love Alfie Kohn's energy. I love Alfie Kohn's dedication. I love Alfie Kohn's persistence. --
I will put a copy of this on my new page for my site
To anyone who reads this, if you want, email me with your thoughts and feelings, so I can add them to the page.
Keep up the good work, Alfie.
|Posted On 05-13-2013 3:06 AM|
|Your Name||: Liz Archer|
|Email Address||: email@example.com|
|Organization||: Private School overseas|
|Location||: currently Bangladesh|
|How did you find our site?||: from a post on Facebook|
|Comment||: I knew the moment I saw "No grades + No homework = Better Learning" that I was going to like Alfie Kohn! He was referenced by teachers I respect and I am not disappointed. I just presented the above equation to my grade 7 students here and it resulted in excited, sincere and passionate debate - love it!!! Thank you for starting the conversations we need to be having!|
|Posted On 04-14-2013 11:14 AM|
|Your Name||: Jeffery|
|Email Address||: firstname.lastname@example.org|
|Location||: San Francisco|
|How did you find our site?||: Google|
|Comment||: My wife and I read your book Unconditional Parenting while we were on vacation and our 3 year-old son was staying at his grandparents. It became a parenting-retreat of sorts as we retooled our approach to some of his more challenging behaviors. I want to just thank for you for what feels like giving me a new perspective that has changed the way I interact with my son. Now I don't feel like I'm fighting him all the time, giving him "consequences" and time-out's. Telling myself I love him unconditionally but not all of his behaviors and hoping or wanting to believe that he knows the difference between those two things (but how could he?). It had started to feel like we were spending all of our time in a desperate attempt to maintain "limits." So thank you, because without wanting to overdramatize this, I feel a bit like I was losing my relationship with my son, and since we've been taking a step back from that positive reinforcement attempts, I feel like I've got it back and we're having fun together again! Jeffery|
|Posted On 04-13-2013 4:49 PM|
|Your Name||: Alison|
|Location||: New Zealand|
|How did you find our site?||: Google|
|Comment||: I am a stay-at-home mother of two intelligent, strong-willed, active boys aged three and four and a half. I chanced upon "unconditional parenting" in an article headline in a local parenting publication. I was wholly sceptical, only reading the article to gain some understanding into what I expected to be another overtly permissive technique that raised "out-of-control" children which would serve to make my job more difficult by having children and parents with whom mine interacted with yet another set of expectations & behaviours. What I had, however, was a "light-bulb moment" that, without exaggeration, caused me to immediately change my parenting style. I was a highly over-controlling parent that practised conditional parenting, as it a societal norm, despite knowing instinctively and from experience that punishment/reward techniques are not the right approach. In the week since, I bought and read your book and my relationship with my children has already clearly improved. In short: thank you for changing my life & improving the future of my children.
|Posted On 04-13-2013 4:42 AM|
|Your Name||: Joanne Bonnici|
|Email Address||: email@example.com|
|Location||: Quebec, Canada|
|How did you find our site?||: From a friend|
|Comment||: As I go to tutor my friend's child after an already too long school day, my stomach is in knots. He sees me and it's like if his jail sentence has arrived. He looks at me with such distress and says: "You know, all day at school it's like if I'm doing homework, I have to sit down, at my desk, I don't like the work and I find it difficult but I do it anyways because I am at school and I have no choice. At least, when the bell rings at the end of the day, I think I can go play but no, I have to sit down and do more work." I look at him, and I would love to have the proper words to tell him that he is not right, that it is important that he sits down again and do again more work. But I can't.... I don't think he understood all that much more because he is just saturated but at least his homework is done so his teacher won't reprimand him and cut off his recess. |
School hours have increased, homework has increased, kindergarden has gone from half a day to a full day. And now they are wanting to create full time preschools. I even heard someone speak of shortening summer time. And plus we have before- and after-school daycare. It's crazy!...
And then we cram them into a bunch of organized activities to compensate for all the things they didn't get to do at school. We have to turn them into hockey stars and musical geniuses. So it's do the homework, throw your dinner down your throat quickly so we can head off to the rest of your overly busy day. I'm getting dizzy just writing about it! Well, after stressing out the whole year about the entry of my daughter in the school system and into this crazy hectic lifestyle, I want to tell everyone that I refuse! I refuse to submit my children to this neurotic lifestyle....Children need time to be children. Let's give them back some of their childhood, please!
Joanne Bonnici Teacher, mom and lover of childhood
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|Posted On 03-27-2013 6:24 PM|
|Your Name||: steven hsieh|
|Email Address||: firstname.lastname@example.org|
|Comment||: If you read these books " Drive", by Daniel Pink, "Start With Why" by Simon Sinek, " Flow" By Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi," [No Contest:] The Case Against Competition" by Alfie Kohn............. I am sure there many more books and articles that I missed. During my research, I have found out that all these books suggest that people are generally not motivated in the long-term by competition, but rather mastery and meaningfulness. It does matter if it is in business or in individual pursuit. It is all the same in the end. An good example is UCLA basketball coach. They won 10 national championship, including record 7 consecutive. A world record for winning 88 games in a row. No other teams in history have won that many. I found out that of all the games they won. None was about winning a trophy. None was about keeping track of their scores. In fact, he told his players not to look at the scoreboard, it is distracting and useless information. It was not about beating the other teams. Every single game they played had the same purpose. The purpose that John Wooden believed in everyday that is..........do the best that we can do, no matter what the outcome and that our ONLY competition should be with ourselves. In other words, you are successful even if you lose the game as long as you gave it your best shot.|
|Posted On 03-26-2013 7:53 PM|
|Your Name||: Jeff Waller|
|Email Address||: email@example.com|
|Organization||: 7 Mindsets|
|How did you find our site?||: Saw Alfie Speak|
|Comment||: Thanks for your presentation tonight Alfie. It was much needed by my wife and I. You are passionate and inspirational. You pushed are thinking and we will forever be better parents because of you. Thanks for that great gift.|
|Posted On 03-21-2013 5:03 PM|
|Your Name||: Mark R.|
|How did you find our site?||: Reference somewhere|
|Comment||: Your book Unconditional Parenting is frighteningly accurate. Honestly, it makes mince meat out of other parenting books I've read. I've got three boys and I'm doing my best to avoid simple parenting mistakes because I know they're so easy to make and last a lifetime. From your lessons I'm actually learning a lot about myself. Thanks - and I'm sure my boys would thank you if they could. Mark|