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Date: Thu Oct 20 12:43:34 2005
Name: Lydia Rumbaugh
E-mail: Beginningschildcare@msn.com
Organization: Beginnings Family Childcare
Location: Pine, CO
How the site
was found:
google
Comments:  
 

 

Date: Sun Oct 16 14:35:50 2005
Name: Anne E Hemingway Feuer
E-mail: Feuerfamily@hotmail.com
Organization: none that I wish to mention
Location: Miami, FL
How the site
was found:
Saw an article in Miami Herald & bought a book
Comments: Alfie: I am a blast from the past, but I also work with children, and have raised two daughters in the public schools down here (though NOT at Beach Hi)... I'm writing now to encourage you to run for office. Any kind of office. I know, you're busy, but I am so tired of the people with brains shying away from leadership. You and Daniel Quinn (author of Ishmael, My Ishmael, Story of B, etc.) are the most wise people I know, and I've tried to encourage him also. We're considering moving to Iceland or something if we have to endure any more of the war excuses/fear inducing/out and out craziness of the people who've been destroying our planet lately. Don't get me wrong, I think Hilary Clinton could maybe handle it, and I've raised my daughters to be strong advocates of peaceful resolution of conflicts, etc., but I'm sick of KNOWING that there are wiser solutions to problems that are not brought to the forefront. It's not just the field of Education that needs your ideas, it's everyone, everywhere!

 


 

 

Date: Fri Oct 14 08:55:47 2005
Name: Thomas Heinegg
E-mail: theinegg@northport.k12.ny.us
Organization: Northport Middle School
Location: Northport, New York
How the site
was found:
see below
Comments: I met Alfie Kohn at a conference on cooperative learning and he spoke about changing some of our competitive games e.g. musical chairs. At the next conference, I gave him a picture of my 5 year old daughter and friends gleefully playing it at her birthday party.

 


 

 

Date: Fri Oct 14 01:48:50 2005
Name: Farida D'Silva Dias
E-mail: tutsiluv2@yahoo.com
Organization: Jeevan Community Centre,
Location: Goa, India
How the site
was found:
Read Niel Davies article
Comments: I used to be in Kuwait - we met at earlier RT conferences and missed you at the Dublin Conf. Have always found yr presentations meaningful. Have returned back home to India and have started a non=pofit community centre. Will be in touch for some. Will be purchasing all of your books. Information in your articles is very useful to my cause.Tks

 


 

 

Date: Fri Oct 14 01:48:41 2005
Name: Farida D'Silva Dias
E-mail: tutsiluv2@yahoo.com
Organization: Jeevan Community Centre,
Location: Goa, India
How the site
was found:
Read Niel Davies article
Comments: I used to be in Kuwait - we met at earlier RT conferences and missed you at the Dublin Conf. Have always found yr presentations meaningful. Have returned back home to India and have started a non=pofit community centre. Will be in touch for some. Will be purchasing all of your books. Information in your articles is very useful to my cause.Tks

 


 

 

Date: Thu Oct 13 19:55:04 2005
Name: Mary
E-mail: zois@bellatlantic.net
Organization: parent
Location: Massachusetts
How the site
was found:
Schools our Children Deserve
Comments: Hey Alfie, any thoughts of writing an article about tracking kids in middle school math according to ability? Seems that just when math starts to get interesting, some kids are told that they're not smart enough for it. Can you help us ? THANKS, from a parent of 7th grader

 


 

 

Date: Thu Oct 13 17:46:18 2005
Name: gary d. canterbury
E-mail: gcanterbury@middletowncityschools.com
Organization:  
Location: Middletown Ohio 45044
How the site
was found:
Gary Stager. org
Comments:  
 

 

Date: Thu Oct 13 13:14:04 2005
Name: maria
E-mail: mari_big_red@yahoo.com
Organization: rochester city schools
Location:  
How the site
was found:
read unconditional parenting
Comments: why is disruptive behavior so prevalent in urban schools?

 


 

 

Date: Thu Oct 13 09:32:27 2005
Name: Cherie Grant
E-mail: frisco@dreamscape.com
Organization: Utica City Schools
Location: JFK
How the site
was found:
internet search
Comments: I am designing and implementing an action research project as part of my professional performance review this year. I have always thought of myself as more progressive than my peers and some of Alfie's constructs interest me to further explore them. I am also hoping my investigation relieves my current frustration with my craft.

 


 

 

Date: Sat Oct 8 19:32:35 2005
Name: Corinne Creel
E-mail:  
Organization:  
Location: CO
How the site
was found:
I've been reading all of Alfie Kohns books and wanted to learn more. I typed in his name....
Comments: I have been frustrated with the overuse of rewards/awards in my childrens school. I finally decided to speak up and in preparing to meet with our accountability committee I have come across all of Mr. Kohns books. Ecerything I felt I was reading (with references)... Thank-you!

 


 

 

Date: Wed Oct 5 17:57:28 2005
Name: Meaghan
E-mail: Querry
Organization: Student
Location: Rexburg Idaho
How the site
was found:
Internet
Comments: I would like to know who Alfie Kohn is. I would like to read a biography of him. I would like to know where and when he was born and where he went to high school and what jobs he worked. What lead him to have such opinions of education.

 


 

 

Date: Wed Oct 5 14:46:13 2005
Name: Stephanie Davis
E-mail: private
Organization:  
Location: Colorado
How the site
was found:
Looking for article to give a class.
Comments: Thank You. Free (relevant and good) information can be hard to come by.

 


 

 

Date: Mon Oct 3 06:07:39 2005
Name: Sara Bradley
E-mail: elf_queen26@yahoo.co.uk
Organization:  
Location: england
How the site
was found:
google
Comments: doing my dissertation on the use of rewards in the early years of schoolingand whether they they have a detrimental effect on the education the childrn receive. i found the articles listed on this site extremely helpful and also see this issue in a new light. thank you Mr Kohn.

 


 

 

Date: Sun Oct 2 16:11:01 2005
Name: Mark Walker
E-mail: walkeram@cox.net
Organization: LMFT
Location: Texas
How the site
was found:
Referenced on another site arout reality therapy
Comments: Thanks for your books. I just picked up a copy of The Brighter Side of Human Nature. An invaluable addition to views of ourselves and our children.

 


 

 

Date: Thu Sep 29 04:27:52 2005
Name: Sean Curran
E-mail: spc169@psu.edu
Organization: Penn State University
Location: State College PA
How the site
was found:
class
Comments:  
 

 

Date: Tue Sep 27 08:29:07 2005
Name: Armen Pischdotchian
E-mail: pischdoa@netscape.net
Organization:  
Location:  
How the site
was found:
By listening to NPR (On Point)
Comments: I'm reading Unconditional Parenting and boy am I glad I came across this book. It has truely enlightening me and is already helping me become a better parent.

 


 

 

Date: Tue Sep 20 08:07:05 2005
Name: Pax
E-mail: paxll@yahoo.com
Organization:  
Location: Washington, DC
How the site
was found:
it's bookmarked!
Comments: Just read the 2003 article, "Almost there..." in my research for an "Art of Discipline" seminar I'm facilitating. Besides thanking Alfie profusely for it, I'd also like to "add one" to the "not quite there" category: I've been in so many classrooms where the teacher's approach to discipline actually, over time, undermines the solid, child-centered, learning activities she introduces AND erodes really good connections that she has with the kids. When will we learn that our approach to discipline cannot be opposite from our approach to teaching?

 


 

 

Date: Tue Sep 20 06:20:32 2005
Name: Dave Beauchamp
E-mail: D.Beauchamp@sau47.k12.nh.us
Organization: Assist. Supt. SAU47 Jaffrey-Rindge NH
Location:  
How the site
was found:
 
Comments: Enjoyed your article 9/7 ed.week thanks ...demanding "relevance" in public education is like building sand castles...if you don't keep your eye on it it goes right back to beach...

 


 

 

Date: Sun Sep 18 20:25:12 2005
Name: Kelly Bethel
E-mail: bethelbkj@peoplepc.com
Organization: elementary teacher
Location: MO
How the site
was found:
google
Comments: I am doing a report for a Master's level Curriculum class. Thanks for having all these articles in one place. Mr. Kohn, if you read this, please email me as to what the MOST important thing/point you would like me to share with my class during my presentation would be. Thank you.

 


 

 

Date: Thu Sep 15 07:36:48 2005
Name: Dr.Diane Miller
E-mail: drmomdm@aol.com
Organization: clinical psychologist (APA)
Location:  
How the site
was found:
 
Comments: Imagine my relief-- when after 25 years of arguing for the educational philosophy Alfie Kohn promotes-- I discovered his work. I left New York City in the hopes of finding a more compatible educational environment for my seven=year old son but have come to the conclusion that our pessimistic adherence to behaviorism and dehumanized competitiveness is everywhere in our land. My question to you, Alfie Kohn and the like-minded, is there a school that you can recommend? I'm willing to relocate pretty much anywhere. Thanks!

 


 

 

Date: Wed Sep 14 05:25:08 2005
Name: Dorothy Rich
E-mail: dorothyrich@starpower.,net
Organization:  
Location:  
How the site
was found:
 
Comments: Dear Alfie: Your column--Getting Hit on the Head Lessons should be required reading by every educator and parent. I have always called it the "iodine theory of education"--it has to hurt kids to do any good. You put the points well and can only hope someone, many ones , are out there listening. Best. Dorothy Rich

 


 

 

Date: Sun Sep 4 13:58:24 2005
Name: Lyn Bajaj
E-mail: lynbajaj@yahoo.com
Organization: Littleton Public Schools
Location: Littleton, CO
How the site
was found:
google
Comments: I am evangalizing the merits of Punished by Rewards here in Colorado, and look forward to reading your newer books. Still trying to determine where the line is between living within a system that promotes test scores and grades, and also promoting a betterw ay of assessment and more important, learning for our students.

 


 

 

Date: Wed Aug 31 22:44:57 2005
Name: Soren Wuerth
E-mail: sorenwuerth@yahoo.com
Organization: Kushunamiut School Districk
Location: Chevak, Alaska
How the site
was found:
fairtest.org
Comments: It is my first year as a teacher and I am guiding a secondary language arts class in a school that is 98% Alaska Native (Chup'ik). I read your book, Beyond Discipiline, just days before the start of the school year. This windy, rural village is, like other Alaska Native communities, in the unique circumstance of having Western cultural values imposed on it through the modern school. Like other Yup'ik Eskimo communities, Chevak residents still speak their Native language, eat subsistence foods, and retain close family bonds. Although it has a new, $23 million school, the town is destitute. Earlier this summer, the community had IRS liens of almost $200,000 and almost had its power cut off. Meanwhile, I am trying to create class community in a school that, like most, has a punitive discipline plan. I have to ignore everything I've been taught in graduate school, push aside the warnings of fellow teachers, and ease my impulse for classroom "control" to encourage students--who are themselves used to an institutional system of "management"--to construct their own learning. It is very difficult and I am alone in my approach. The school district's primary goal is, of course, to have students pass the statewide "exit exams" and meet AYP. It is the third year Chevak hasn't made its test targets and the state is threatening sanctions. (For many students, English is a second language.) In light of these problems, I'm having my students write grant applications, start a newspaper, and develop a public safety team (the community can't afford to pay a village public safety officer anymore). It's a tough situation. But I'm trying. Thanks for your beacon of light at the far end of the tundra.

 


 

 

Date: Sat Aug 27 21:16:21 2005
Name: Erica Pritner
E-mail: dustbowldiva@yahoo.com
Organization: Yukon Public Schools
Location: Yukon, Oklahoma
How the site
was found:
radio review
Comments: Always interested in Mr. Kohn's thoughts!

 


 

 

Date: Sat Aug 27 06:49:07 2005
Name: glenn b wing
E-mail: wing@skybest.com
Organization:  
Location: Sparta, NC
How the site
was found:
presently reading "No Contest"
Comments: Thanks for writing an insightful book. Thank you glenn

 


 

 

Date: Fri Aug 26 20:47:35 2005
Name: Marie Plumb
E-mail: mamamarie90@hotmail.com
Organization: Day Care
Location: West Valley City
How the site
was found:
Invitation to a lecture
Comments: I would like some info on disruptive children who pout, throw a tantrum because they can't get their way, they hide under shirts, blankets or whatever until they can conform. They have a parent who isn't very loving but says it all the time. She is too busy for them, but they get soda and sweets all the time. The children need to lose weight and the mother is also overweight. If you can help me that would be wonderful. Thanks Marie

 


 

 

Date: Thu Aug 25 16:30:46 2005
Name: Paul Waterlander
E-mail: waterlander@shaw.ca
Organization: Sooke District #62
Location: Victoria, British Columbia
How the site
was found:
 
Comments: I would like to thank Alfie for the wonderful presentation given in Vancouver for the British Columbia Teachers' Federation. It is with much shock and dismay to find our province stuck in the "Standards & Test mania" after many years of relative teacher autonomy. It was also shocking to hear Alfie's pronouncement that he felt the BC learning outcomes were some of the most stringent and mindless he has ever seen! I guess after all these years of teaching in one place you lose sight of where your system is in relation to others. It was quite an eye-opener and a wake-up call that we teachers in BC must fight this encroachment of our autonomy and resist these "bean-counters" and remember that policies and laws passed by governments do not have to remain...they can be changed. BC teachers may be engaged in strike action in mid-September so wish us all success in our fight to regain common sense in education!

 


 

 

Date: Tue Aug 23 08:45:13 2005
Name: Phyllis Gilbert
E-mail: phyllisg99@hotmail.com
Organization: Durant schools
Location: Durant, OK
How the site
was found:
by typing in Alfie Kohn
Comments: Thank God there is still some common sense "out there". After 30 years in the classroom I am so disheartened to see what we are doing to our young people. We have given them the idea anyone can FIND anything(information) without having to think critically or read with an inquiring mind. Stuff them full and they SHALL regurgitate.If regurgitating is good that day and test scores are high that PROVES we have a great school and are meeting the needs of our students. Baloney! Our students deserve better, and it's our fault if they do not receive it. Thanks for the site. I appreciate being able to "connect" with those who truly understand what is happening to our public education system. We are caught, as teachers, in the trap of top-down decision making and the lack of understanding that a system cannot thrive or survive as long as teachers feel as foot soldiers. Please excuse my rambling...... Phyllis Gilbert Durant, OK

 


 

 

Date: Sun Aug 14 12:33:28 2005
Name: Kate Miner
E-mail: k8miner@kc.rr.com
Organization: High School teacher, grad student & mother of elementary child
Location: Overland Park, Kansas
How the site
was found:
Search Engine - MSN
Comments: I'd like to ask a couple questions about the "Accelerated Reading" program used in our district and in my son's school. As a teacher and a mother, I am not sure I see the validity nor the benefits of the program. What are your thoughts?

 


 

 

Date: Wed Aug 10 07:04:24 2005
Name: John Widdicombe
E-mail: widdi@mhtc.net
Organization: School Board
Location: Mount Horeb, WI
How the site
was found:
searched Alfie Kohn
Comments: I have greatly enjoyed many of your books. I'm hoping to do my part as a layman in my community to improve the learning experience for our children.

 


 

 

Date: Sat Aug 6 19:32:22 2005
Name: B Baker
E-mail: bbaker@mpls.k12.mn.us
Organization: teacher
Location: Twin Cities Metro
How the site
was found:
the book Punished by Rewards
Comments: Have any other EBD teachers read this book? I am interested in hearing some thoughts about it and if anyone has had success with Alfie's ideas.

 


 

 

Date: Wed Aug 3 09:32:40 2005
Name: Sabrina
E-mail: peperette@hotmail.com
Organization: elementary school teacher
Location: Ottawa, Canada
How the site
was found:
searched "Alfie Kohn"
Comments: Beyond Disciline and Punished by Rewards really delve into people's behavioural management motives like no other books I've read. I can't wait to finish both books and I look forward to reading on what strategies I can apply in my classroom. I must admit, though, reading the first few chapters was very hard to stomach at first since they challenge fundamental views and responses teachers have towards their students. That's what made them such a great read-they were a true wake-up call for me.

 


 

 

Date: Mon Aug 1 13:08:04 2005
Name: kris peugh
E-mail: jepeugh@ccser.com
Organization: elementary school teacher/grad student
Location: spokane.WA
How the site
was found:
email address on jacket of Kohn's book
Comments: The subject of my Master's Thesis is, "How do letter grades impact learning motivation in students?" In my study I would like to use a valid and reliable inventory to measure students' (ages 6-12) motivation for learning. I'm having some difficulty finding a good tool. Can you direct me to some good resources?

 


 

 

Date: Wed Jul 20 05:34:54 2005
Name: Tom Killeen
E-mail: tkilleen@hcstonline.org
Organization: Hudson County Schools of Technology
Location: North Bergen, New Jersey
How the site
was found:
Attended workshop yesterday
Comments: Alfie, I was in the workshop yesterday (July 19) at Kean University. I spoke to you before your presentation and mentioned to you that while we were watching a video tape on how to interpret test dat, I started to read your book and was pleasantly surprised that everything you wrote was the exact opposite of what was being said on the tape. You mentioned New Jersey doing away with the SRA process. I am the assistant principal for an alternative high school in Hudson County, New Jersey, a highly urban area. Most of our students have gone through the SRA. This past June, 80 students graduated, and 60 of them are going on to college, either 2-year or 4-year. This is great since most of them had either dropped out or were at-risk of dropping out. If NJ does away with the SRA, where are they going to be? Anyway, I have long been a proponent of everything you spoke about yesterday. When I teach a class (English), I tell the students on the first day of class not to worry about their grades. I'm the one who puts the grades in the book, and all they have to do is to give a good effort and concentrate on learning. It works. Grades mean nothing to me -- learning does. Thanks for a great afternoon. Tom Killeen

 


 

 

Date: Sun Jul 17 09:43:27 2005
Name: frances manners
E-mail: smfmhm@aol.com
Organization: parent of an eight year old girl
Location: new york city, ny
How the site
was found:
i purchased Alfie Kohn's book, Unconditional Parenting
Comments: Conditional love and parenting is the way I grew up...and as parents, both my husband and I have had no other role models. After skimming your newest book at Borders, I was so grateful. I am very open to this way of parenting-with trust and respect, but I'm not so sure my husband will be. I wondered if you will be giving workshops for parents in Manhattan? Also, have you or will you consider training parents to conduct workshops to other parents? Also, what about offering family retreat weekends where you could give workshops, etc. Thank you so much for taking the time to write this very important book. Frances Manners

 


 

 

Date: Thu Jul 14 08:38:37 2005
Name: Hugh
E-mail: jarse.hugh@gmail.com
Organization:  
Location:  
How the site
was found:
 
Comments: Great

 


 

 

Date: Wed Jul 13 08:46:49 2005
Name: abby brooks
E-mail: brooks_abi@hotmail.com
Organization:  
Location: West Hartford, Connecticut
How the site
was found:
 
Comments: I have just discovered Unconditional Parenting - what a terrific find!

 


 

 

Date: Wed Jul 13 06:58:42 2005
Name: Jenny
E-mail: jherman78@yahoo.com
Organization:  
Location: Lincolnton, NC
How the site
was found:
Internet search
Comments: I am a college student pursuing licensure in Middle Grades Education. Your work has been discussed in several of my courses. Thank you for providing teachers, parents, and administrators with information and encouragement to "save our schools" from high stakes testing.

 


 

 

Date: Sat Jul 9 13:17:20 2005
Name: Susan
E-mail: wncchef@yahoo.com
Organization: Mother and Autisic Teacher Assistant
Location: WNC
How the site
was found:
Reading Punished by Rewards
Comments: I am in complete awe of this book, only on chapter 8. I am using plenty of praise both in school and home. Rethinking my parenting and teaching, I can not wait to finish this book and pick up another of A. Kohn's to brighten my perspective. Thank you for the challenge.

 


 

 

Date: Fri Jul 8 15:30:11 2005
Name: Willow Foster
E-mail: willow.alfiekohn@fostergroup.org
Organization:  
Location: washington state
How the site
was found:
back flap of Unconditional Parenting
Comments: Thank you for putting into words what I feel in my heart! I am a first time mom, daughter is just approaching 6 months old. On a recent trip to visit relatives, I cannot say how many times I heard something to the extent of, "enjoy it while you can! as soon as she's 15 you'll lose all control" and all I could think was if my husband and I are trying to control our daughter when she is 15 (or at any age!), we are doing something terribly wrong. Here's to treating our children like fellow human beings and breaking vicious cycles!!

 


 

 

Date: Thu Jul 7 09:54:03 2005
Name: Richard Murray
E-mail: rrmurray@msn.com
Organization:  
Location: Wilmette IL
How the site
was found:
search for "Alfie Kohn"
Comments:  
 

 

Date: Wed Jul 6 17:36:18 2005
Name: Reverend Edwin Goldberg, Marriage Clergy
E-mail: edgoldbergnewyork@yahoo.com
Organization: Interfaith Big Apple
Location: NYC
How the site
was found:
 
Comments: Be blessed with the good and beauty of Life................in honor of Mary Agnes Ward, Teacher PS 219, Brooklyn, NY

 


 

 

Date: Wed Jul 6 12:03:18 2005
Name: Steven Machlay
E-mail: chefrah@sbcglobal.net
Organization:  
Location:  
How the site
was found:
 
Comments:  
 

 

Date: Wed Jul 6 07:06:14 2005
Name: Rosia A. Parker
E-mail: rparker@csu.ces.edu
Organization: Central State University
Location: Wilberforce, Ohio
How the site
was found:
internet
Comments:  
 

 

Date: Tue Jul 5 13:36:56 2005
Name: Frank jellison
E-mail: captjell@aol.com
Organization: none
Location: canton Ohio
How the site
was found:
Type in dian Ream
Comments: Love your interviews by dian

 


 

 

Date: Mon Jul 4 03:14:34 2005
Name: Felicia Ybarra
E-mail: fenoma1701@peoplepc.com
Organization:  
Location:  
How the site
was found:
read unconditional parenting
Comments: i really enjoyed unconditional parenting. i would love to learn more on how to use it. not sure i quite understand, maybe i need to read again. thanks for a new view on parenting.

 


 

 

Date: Sat Jul 2 06:37:00 2005
Name: Deron
E-mail: marvind3@msu.edu
Organization:  
Location: An American in China
How the site
was found:
search engine
Comments: In reards to competitin in schools: I have been a teacher and adminstrator in schools for six years now, and have been extremely dissatisfied with the structure of the schools. I sat and observed several "award cermonies" and other such competitions with a great sense of unease. It was not until recently I began to understand the nature of competition in schools and the negative impact it had on most of students. I duly keep the competition out of my classroom; however, I remain alone in my endeavers - at the end of the year, I am always asked by those ordering the awards, "who was your best student?"

 


 

 

Date: Fri Jul 1 09:52:39 2005
Name: Pat Downing
E-mail: Pat@feelgoodparenting.com
Organization: Feel Good Parenting
Location: Asheville, North Carolina
How the site
was found:
referred by Bob Collier of Parental Intelligence
Comments: Hi Alfie, Thank you for the sanity of your advice to parents. It is so refreshing - and far too uncommon. We would like to help spread your message to as many parents as possible. May we use a few of your articles on our website and in our ezine? Sincerely, Pat Downing www.feelgoodparenting.com

 


 

 

Date: Fri Jul 1 06:01:21 2005
Name: Steven Machlay
E-mail: chefrah@sbcglobal.net
Organization:  
Location:  
How the site
was found:
 
Comments:  

 

 

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